Author: Rhynes, J.D.

One of life's most necessary ingredients: Friend's
Friend's. Have you ever stopped to think how much our friends have influenced our lives? How have the friends that you have made in your life, help get you to where you are in yer life's journey to this point? Let me tell you this; Without our friends, none of us would be where we are today. Just think back over the years, how good friends have told us about a better job that we went and got, thanks to them. How many times have you had a friend pull you through one of life's really rough spots? How many time's has a friend gave you money when you were down on your luck, and you didn't even have to ask for it? And then refuse to take it when you tried to repay it after your fortune in life had improved. Personally speaking, I owe my very life and sanity to a friend that took me in and gave me a roof over my head, when a Judge's signature on a Divorce Decree made me homeless, and destitute, virtually in an instant! It's our friends that influence our lives much more than we admit or realize! Family has an influence on our lives, but I think that our friends have a much greater influence, due to the fact that we will tell our closest friends personal matters and confide in them in ways that we would NEVER do with members of our families! Just think of three friends getting together in the early 1970's and dreaming of starting a music association, so that they could have a place to play with all of their FRIEND'S! The members of the CBA, owe the existence of the Assoc. to three FRIEND'S. Out of this realization of a dream come true, comes the fact that because of friends doing this FOR each other, a lot of us have made a lot of good and lasting friendships, that we otherwise would never have made! You see how important friends are. Sadly, we have all lost a good friend this last week, in the passing of Allen Light. Allen was a good friend to any one that would let him. So with that said, here's a poem by one of my all time favorite Cowboy Poets, Baxter Black, that sums up what a friend really is, and Allen 'ol buddy, this one's fer you!

Take Care Of yer Friends

Friend is a word that I dont throw around
Though it's used and abused, I still like the sound
I save it for people who've done right by me,
And I know I can count on if ever need be

Some of my friends drive big Limusines
Own ranches and Banks and visit with Queens
And some of my friends are up to their neck
In overdue notes and cant write a check

They're singers or ropers or writers of prose
And others, God bless 'em cant blow their own nose!
I guess bein' friends dont have nothin' to do
With talent or money, or knowin' who's who.

It's a comf'terbul feelin' when you dont have to care
'Bout choosiin' yer words or bein' quite fair
'Cause friends'll just listen and let go on by
Those words you dont mean and not bat an eye.

It makes a friend happy to see your success,
They're proud of yer good side and forgive all the rest
And that aint so easy all of the time,
Sometimes I get crazy and seem to go blind!

Yer friend just might have to take you on home
Or remind you sometime that you're not alone.
Or ever so gently pull you back to the ground
When you think you can fly with no one around.

A hug or a shake, whichever seems right
Is the high point of givin'. I'll tell ya tonight,
All worldly riches and tributes of men
cant hold a candle to the worth of a friend!

So, let us all take time to reflect on those friends, that we all too often take for granted that they will always be there. They will, UNTIL the mortality of mankind raises it's dreaded head, and takes them from us, way too soon. Take time this week to call the friends that have really made your life what it is today, and thank them for just being who they are, and for being there for you all of these years. Next week just might be too late. We have no promise of tomorrow, and our lives are that of a wild flower, here today and gone with the wind tomorrow. Call yer best friend's and play some good 'ol Bluegrass fer 'em right over the phone. Even if they dont like the music, they'll appreciate the thought ! That's what friends do for us; They appreciate us! Yer friend, J.D.Rhynes
Posted:  4/24/2008

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