Author: Williams, Dave

Time flies when you are having a good time

Before I retired, friends that preceded me in retirement (including my esteemed editor here) warned me that all the time that I expected to have to do the many things I have been planning to do wouldn’t be there. I scoffed at that concept. How could it be? I have been working 9-10 hour days forever and all that time would be available for my new pursuits. Well, maybe I haven’t been working 10 hour days lately but still there should be a bunch of free time to fill. This premise is very logical and straight forward……but wrong.

I’m not sleeping any later so that isn’t it. I wake up at 5:30 to 6:00 every day without an alarm. That has not changed. I don’t lie around all day and watch Maury and Ellen. I have pretty much established a routine for eating and exercising, but for whatever reason, I don’t seem to have the time to do what I have planned.

Sure, I am getting to all of my plans at some level but I can tell you there is no beer in the fermenter yet and the raised garden is not yet planted…but close. I am playing more bass though and that’s a good thing but still not as much as I‘d like.

I am beginning to realize that establishing my new routine will take time. Part of the learning is that it is not all my routine but it involves Linda as well and surprisingly enough she had her own routine that had little to do with me until now. After a quick amount of “togetherness” time each morning, I would be off to work and we would both get into our separate routines. Not so much anymore. Turns out, I am now invading her space and that is something we are both working out. It is not as bad as I am making it sound but there are some adjustments to be made by both of us but the great upside is that we are spending a lot more time together…………. and that is good.

Linda has a jam twice a month on Tuesdays in the afternoon. You might think that this jam would provide an opportunity for me to play but there are two major obstacles to that plan. The first is that there are already two bass players who alternate in the jam and secondly this jam is gender specific. The jam goes by a couple of names that may give you the idea of what I am talking about. One is “The Number One Ladies Living Room Band” and the other more irreverently is “the Pick-Ups” My point is that I am not going to be playing with this group on Tuesdays. That’s okay though I can still watch Ellen in the other room without bothering them.

As for me, I have gone over to my retired guitar player friend’s house a couple of times to play some music (just to be clear he is not a retired guitar player or he hasn’t retired from being my friend but he has “quit his day job”). He brings the blues and I add the grass. Playing with him comes with the added bonus of having a couple shots of tequila and a beer. I’m not sure I can sustain that though for another 25 years of afternoon jamming. What would Dr.Oz say?

There was Walker Creek Music Camp, a fill in bass playing spot in an old time jam and a couple of band rehearsals and lessons to keep me playing and more of these this week
What I am not getting done is the woodshedding to improve my chops but I’ll find the time soon.

This Sunday the Santa Clara Valley Fiddlers are having their monthly jam at Hoover Middle School (corner of Park and Naglee in San Jose). This is usually a great opportunity to jam some but if you are a bass player you need to get there early before all the bass spots get taken. If you’re not familiar with the rules, there can be only one bass per jam. Any more than that and the universe could become unglued. I am planning on camping out Saturday night to beat the crowd.

Seriously, the SCVFA jams are a lot of fun and with the weather we are having it should be a very good one. Don’t forget the open mic stage as there are always folks who come just to listen.

That’s it for now. I’ll be back in June

Posted:  5/2/2013

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